It is a universal human capacity which needs practice and refinement In March there were 69, in May 78 funded studies by NIH under Mindfulness!
What he calls the “second arrow” ----pain + resistance =suffering. It is our reaction to the unpleasant realities inherent in human condition that causes the suffering.
Translation: We strive to control our experiences rather than to accept them as they are. Translation: We react rather than respond. We get caught up in our experience and lose our objectivity. Translation: Less pain + more pleasure = not accepting what is here = not accepting human condition = not happy in our skins = suffering
. The Monkey story—the problem is not the banana or the desire to have the banana—the problem is the inability to let go. --the human condition –the unchangeable aspects of our experience in a given moment. i.e. the investment and the energy that we put in to either clinging or avoiding things that are not under our control. Letting go is not to get rid of the human condition —it is to change our relationship to it. and notice what is going on right now rather than living in the illusion of the past or the future.
This thinking has been a part of the mystic traditions and thinking of the East for centuries. Rumi the Persian mystic poet 800 years ago wrote.
(cardiovascular, musculoskeletal, nervous system, immune system ) fight, flight, freeze Hypothalamus, pituitary, or adrenals increase in blood pressure and pulse rate resulting in physical and psychological exhaustion, loss of drive and enthusiasm, depression, or diseases related to bodily systems involved in stress reaction. We respond to social situations as if they were a threat to our lives. Much of our stress, real or imagined comes from real or imagined threat to our social status not to our lives. Our body reacts the same way. And so we get caught in stress reactivity.
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Talk about Margaret Chesney Susan Folkman talk about founing that you make matters worse if you apply the strategies of one column to the aspects of the other column.
They are two separate constructs. We can have positive and negative emotions at the same time with varying degrees .
We note pleasant and unpleasant experience –but neither to recoil or to grab on to
Not smirks! Mindfulness bell.
How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice