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She Negotiates  . . . .  and everything changes January 18, 2011 Victoria Pynchon, J.D., LL.M Long Island Center for Business and Professional Women She Negotiates  Consulting and Training on the Web
wake up! The Northridge earthquake occurred on January 17, 1994 at 4:31 AM Pacific Standard Time in Reseda, a neighborhood in the city of Los Angeles, California, lasting for about 45 seconds. The earthquake had a "strong" moment magnitude of 6.7, but the ground acceleration was one of the highest ever instrumentally recorded in an urban area in North America.
Negotiation is a conversation  leading to agreement
in a mixed motive exchange Compete for scarce resources Collaborate for mutual gain
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recognize the  opportunity to negotiate
 
 
 
Could we talk about this later? I appreciate it but it was not what I was expecting We must not be on the same page I’m entitled to the full $10K bonus this year
the grim statistics
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We Negotiate for . . .
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Autonomy
Pride
Self Expression
 
monkey economy 50  million  years
Money is simply one way to store value & permit trade at a distance What else do you have to trade?
Women tend to value  relationship more than money
often leading us to value ourselves less than male peers
We measure our work by what we  need  and compare our incomes to those of our female friends
We over-deliver to our clients and superiors and under-deliver to ourselves
We work 22% longer and 10% faster for the same reward
 
we can close the gap NOW
ANCHORING When we set our value in the market we set our own future value; we set our women colleague’s value and we set the value for our children and children’s children Image credit istockphoto.com 2010
Recalibrate our Market value
Sk for it
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Male Bargaining Advantages ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]
The Psychic History of our Fight  for Scarce Resources  ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],“ Innovate, don’t litigate (contend)”  Jonathan Schwartz,  CEO Sun Microsystems
theory of mind
Our ability to reason arose from our need to understand one another’s intentions and motivations, allowing us to coordinate within a group
we developed certain tendencies of thought called cognitive  biases universal ways of thinking about what motivates other people
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What the HECK are they THINKING?
and will it be harmful to me?
Will they cooperate
or attack ?
How can I make them do what I want them to do?
we read signs and symbols in an effort to control our own destiny
and make common cognitive errors
We see patterns where none exist Clustering Illusion
we discount everything our bargaining partners say reactive devaluation
confirmation bias we search for and interpret information in a way that confirms our preconceptions
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Getting what you want Copyright 2010 Reason Press
Negotiate from Strength You are as strong as you believe yourself to be L is for Lawyer copyright 2010 Reason Press
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how can we reach a mutually beneficial and durable agreement? By ascertaining their  interests, preferences, priorities, needs, desires, constraints, strengths, and weaknesses,  as well as our own
Z is for Zen Master copyright 2010 Reason Press Collaborative Problem Solving
Ask Diagnostic Questions C is for Coward copyright 2010 Reason Press
 
[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Q is for Questioner copyright 2010 Reason Press
[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],T is for Them and Us copyright 2010 Reason Press
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Framing ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]
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Distributive Bargaining ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]
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tit for tat S is for Shakedown Artist copyright 2010 Reason Press
Difficult people
Behind every accusation is a cry for help D is for Drama Queen copyright 2010 Reason Press
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[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],O Is for Outlaw copyright 2010 Reason Press
[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],P is for Paranoid copyright 2010 Reason Press
Practice practice practice
How were the women’s dilemmas solved? Growing isn't like in a movie where you have a realization and life changes.  In life, you have a realization and your life changes a month or so later.  So I just have to wait a month?  It depends on the realization. Some of them you only wait a couple weeks. ~Postcards from the Edge
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K is for Kin copyright 2010 Reason Press You can have it all Just not at the same time

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She negotiates . . . and everything changes

Hinweis der Redaktion

  1. We negotiate for what we need in the face of the needs of others. We DISTRIBUTE the world’s resources in a way we believe to be fair. As lawyers, we call this JUSTICE.
  2. We negotiate in an attempt to establish our values as those that govern the world we live in.
  3. To accomplish that, we negotiate for power whether it’s the power to guide the So. Carolina Women Lawyers’ Association; to influence the curriculum our local school system adopts to teach our children; or, to control the behavior of others in the workplace, on the playground, in our neighborhoods and throughout the world.
  4. We negotiate to preserve our liberty to be ourselves so long as it does not impinge upon the liberty of another
  5. We negotiate to create and define the communities in which we live
  6. We negotiate to have unfettered freedom in certain areas of our lives
  7. We negotiate to achieve our full potential and for the esteem of the community
  8. We negotiate for the opportunity to express ourselves creatively
  9. And we negotiate for money
  10. Every time we teach our negotiation course, we ask our women questions about their attitudes toward, experiences of, and preferences for the outcome of negotiation. On a 1 to 10 scale, the most consistently similar answer we get both before and after the month-long course is that women value relationships over money and that, at a minimum, they want their bargaining partner to get as good a deal as possible while at the same time the negotiator gets as good a deal as she can for herself.
  11. When asked what we believe we deserve to be paid for our work, we undervalue ourselves by between 3 and 30% The wage gap is one-third
  12. When we are asked to work until we believe we’re entitled to the $X we’re told we’ll be paid, we work 22 percent longer and 10% faster than men
  13. Differences between contending and problem solving in the evolution of human history
  14. Three levels of agreement
  15. When preparing to negotiate a settlement, we generally think in terms of distributing the risk of loss among the parties.