2.
“The best way to help children is to help
parents. If parents do not like what their
children do, it is not the children alone
who must change”
Thomas Harris
I am OK, you are OK
3.
Islam considers children to be an amanah
(trust) given to the family and says it is
fard (obligatory) for the family to raise a
child in a righteous manner.
Amanah
5.
Making a commitment in a
caring way, which involves
taking part in the learning
process side-by-side with the
learner.
Accompanying
6.
Mentors are often confronted with the
difficulty of preparing the learner before
he or she is ready to change. Sowing is
necessary when you know that what you
say may not be understood or even
acceptable to learners at first but will
make sense and have value to the mentee
when the situation requires it.
Sowing
7.
When change reaches a critical level of
pressure, learning can escalate. Here the
mentor chooses to plunge the learner
right into change, provoking a different
way of thinking, a change in identity or a
re-ordering of values.
Catalyzing
8.
This is making something
understandable, or using your own
example to demonstrate a skill or activity.
You show what you are talking about,
you show by your own behavior.
Showing
9.
Here the mentor focuses on "picking the
ripe fruit": it is usually used to create
awareness of what was learned by
experience and to draw conclusions. The
key questions here are: "What have you
learned?", "How useful is it?".
Harvesting
11.
1. Cloning model is about the mentor trying to
"produce a duplicate copy of him or her self."
2. Nurturing model takes more of a "parent figure,
creating a safe, open environment in which mentee
can both learn and try things for him-or herself."
3. Friendship model are more peers "rather than being
involved in a hierarchical relationship."
4. Apprenticeship is about less "personal or social
aspects... and the professional relationship is the
sole focus".
Models
15.
Childhood – 0 to 7 (Playmate)
Adolescence – 8 to 14 (Mentor)
Adulthood – 15 to 21 (Friend)
Childhood to Adulthood
Stages
16.
Biological Transition
Cognitive Transition
Social Transition
Psychological Transition
Emotional Transition
Economic Transition
Time of “Storm & Stress” ~ Stanley Hall
Transitions
17.
Puberty
Change in Physical Appearance
Reproductive Development
Growth Spurt
Biological Transition
18.
Change in how people think
Teens start thinking more profoundly & abstractly
Result of maturation
Growth in Brain – not in size but in definition of
creases
Frontal lobe
Educational motivation
Cognitive Transition
19.
Childhood to Adulthood
Underage – Minor – Adult
Societal perception change
Society Gives More Responsibility
Relationship change – House/Parents –
School/Friends
Family to Peers
Social Transition
22.
Money Matters
Friends
Lifestyle management
Reality check
Finance Management – best time to train
Economic Transition
23.
Peer
Media
Food & Health
Parents
Home
Influencers
Select good friends & say NO to bad
company.
Movies, Games, Music, Internet, Social Media.
Pornography, chats & timewasters
Healthy eating/exercise. Breakfast/Sleep and
personal timetable
How are they? Healthy, Emotional, Mental &
Spiritual Contributor – open communication
Stable, secure, orderly & clean
24.
Recreation
Romance
Emotions
Sexuality
Structure
Influencers
Compensate the restriction. Arts & Crafts.
Hobbies & Skill Development
Parents role/communication. Emotional
experiments.
Increasing diagnosable mental disorder. Self
determination (decision making)
Strong emotional family ties. Learning about
sex from friends/media. Pornography/Arts
Timetable. Study Time, prayer time, a clear
daily schedule. Homework
27.
Argumentativeness
Indecisiveness
Finding fault with authority figure
Apparent hypocrisy
Self-consciousness
(everyone is thinking about me)
Assumption of vulnerability
(no one understands what I am going through)
(David Elkind-1984)
Immaturity in Teens
33.
Office stress
Personal stress
Missing salah with soul
Bringing down stress after Asr
Missing Magrib
Talk less after Isha (except remembrance of
Allah/Deen)
How?
