English forum on Family Bond

1. Chairman : Family life is too intimate to be preserved by the spirit of justice. It can be sustained
by a spirit of love which goes beyond justice. The challenges that occur nowadays create
difficulties for families to foster a bond.
Talker 1 : Now what is a family? Family is a bond, a long lasting relationship that holds a bond
with each other. It all forms when man and women become one and from there a family is born.
Talker 2: Family bonding does not happen overnight. It forms with every second, every minute
that you spend with your loved ones.
Talker 3: A close family bond is like a safe harbour, where we feel secure and where we trust
that we have someone always there to whom we could turn to when we need them the most.
Chairman : So what is the main challenge to build a strong family bonding in this globalised
world?
Talker 1: Families face new challenges in later life. In family bonding, divorce permanently
weakens the relationship between children and parents. The National Survey of Families and
Households found that about one in five divorced fathers had not seen their children in the past
year, and less than half the fathers saw their children more than a few times a year. Thus,
children’s relationships with both their parents change after a divorce: they become more distant
from both, more so even than children living with married but unhappy parents which results in
to be less affectionate with their children, less communicative, and to discipline them more
harshly and more inconsistently, especially during the first year following the divorce. When a
family goes through a separation or a divorce there is often a lot of really difficult stuff to deal
with at home - there is lots of change, emotion, and often tension in the family. This can lead to
thoughts and feelings of self-blame, fear and guilt that affects a happier family bonding.
Chairman : Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution.In this case, What is your
opinion to find a better way to solve the problem ?
Talker 2: “To maintain a joyful family requires much from both the parents and the children.
Each member of the family has to become, in a special way, the servant of others.The solutions
that can help families to prepare for and to cope with both the expected and unexpected
changes of family bonding between divorced parents and their children is at meal times
encourage parents and children to discuss what they plan to do. Staying in touch is the best
way to incorporate family bonding. Sometimes one parent might move to a different city, town or

2. state and it becomes difficult to spend as much time with them as before. Thus, either children
or parent can make regular times to talk on the phone or on Skype, write letters or emails and
send texts. Above all, parent must show their love and affection to their companion and children.
Spend time together doing things that we enjoy, talking, and simply relaxing. These steps build
strong family bonding. Furthermore, parents can talk among each other about their feelings
about these changes, and what needs to be done to prepare for the future. This may be difficult,
but can increase understanding and closeness among family members, and bring peace of
mind to everyone concerned.
Chairman : Apart from that, Do teenagers care more about their friends than their parents?
Some people adhere the opinion that friends effect on the most important decisions of their
peers.
Talker 3 : I prefer say that peers aren't more important than parents, but sometimes peers
become more influential than family on teenagers.
It is clear that parents always want only the best for their children. At any point where children
are going in the wrong direction, parents will know the right way and help to understand all the
mistakes, solve problems, give an important advice. It is also hard to deny that parents always
accept their child as he or she really is and when the child meets his friends, who haven't been
with him for such a long period of time as family, this is not the same case, and there is no
doubt that peers can propose something contrary which will not be pleasing for both sides.
On the other hand, the teenagers often spend most of their time with their friends because they
want to be away from the home environment, trying new pursuits and socialising. Teenagers
usually choose friends who are like themselves, and in spite of parents best intentions,
teenagers can perceive criticism of their friends as personal criticism. It can also be argued that
sometimes problems can develop when parents don't show an interest in what their children are
doing and there is a breakdown in communication between children and parents. In this case
teenagers may be guided by the opinion of their peers more than by the family's opinion.
In short, I would say that every situation depends on certain circumstances and it is always
individual. But in my view, family influence is the most important in teenagers lives.
Chairman : As a parent, it’s important that you do what you can to encourage your child’s
relationships with her friends to be positive ones.

3. So in this case what could be the best way to maintain a happy family ?
Talker 1: To maintain a happy family one sould Leave her or his baggage outside
Too many times, we let our daily stresses spill over into our home lives. Don’t do it – at least not
around your kids. Whether you were reprimanded by your boss or got into an argument with a
co-worker, try to let that stress go when you come home. If you allow your daily baggage to
affect your mood at home, your kids will be missing out on the fun, happy parent that they need.
Children may also mistakenly believe that they are the cause of your grumpiness, which can
negatively affect their self-esteem. Don’t put them through that.
This is especially important in families with more than one child. Kids need to know that they are
important, and there is no better way to express that importance than by spending a little quality
time with them. It can be something as simple as reading a bedtime story together, or playing a
game of catch, or even snuggling on the couch watching a favorite television show. Children
thrive on closeness and individual attention – give it to them. In short, we need to spend time
together as a whole family.
Chairman : There is little doubt that technology is affecting family relationships on a day-to-day
level. Technology is changing the way families communicate and spend time together.
Talker 2 : Yes, I agree with your opinion.Many families now have smart phones which offer a
hand held portal to entertainment, social networks and other distractions. Children are instant
messaging constantly, checking their social media, listening to music, surfing their favourite web
sites, and watching television or movies. Because of the emergence of mobile technology, these
practices are no longer limited to the home, but rather can occur in cars, at restaurants, in fact,
anywhere there’s a mobile phone signal.
Now days, family life has changed in the last generation quite apart from the rise of technology.
The size of homes has grown by 50 percent, meaning family members can retreat to their own
corners of the house, so there’s less chance that parents and children will see each other.
Because everyone is so busy with work, school, and extracurricular activities, there’s less time
for families to spend together.

4. At technology to the mix and it only gets worse. It’s gotten to the point where it seems like
parents and children are emailing and texting each other more than they’re talking—even when
they’re at home together!
Chairman : what is the best way to avoid this problem ?
Talker 3 : Parents can limit the amount of time a child using technologies such as phone,
laptop, television and many more. More than that parent also can show their kids how to have
fun with outdoor activities such as gardening, jogging, playing kiddie games with family
members. Parents also have to show their kids that their parents know how to have fun by
getting down on their kids level to play kiddie games.
According to psychologist and author Lawrence Cohen playing with your kids also fosters
closeness and a connection with kids. Play hide and seek outdoors with the kids, chase them
around pretending to be a zombie, or plan a family game of flag football or you can plan a
neighbourhood field day, competing as a family against other families in friendly outdoor
competitions such as relay races and kickball.
Talker 1: As a conclusion, Family should be our priority, and love them with all your heart, as
everything else you could get as per your choice, but getting good parents and siblings is a
choice that is made by God and you can never demand it!
Thank you 