Concept of Courtship and Marriage

1. Concept of
Courtship and
Marriage
MAEP

2. Marriage
the formal union of a man and
a woman typically recognized by
law, by which they become husband
and wife.
“Men marry women with the hope they will never change.
Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably
they are both
disappointed.”
― Albert
Einstein

3. Courtship is the period in a couple's relationship which
precedes their engagement and marriage, or
establishment of an agreed relationship of a more
enduring kind
Courtship is a special kind of friendship between two
persons of the opposite sex that may lead to love and
marriage.

4. A gift turned over by the groom to the bride’s
parents for all practical purpose in exchange for the
bride.
A dowry is the transfer of parental property to a
daughter as her inheritance at her marriage (i.e.
inter vivos) rather than at the owner's death (mortis
causa). A dowry establishes a type of conjugal fund,
the nature of which may vary widely.

5.  Bigay-kaya- consist of land, gold or dependents. Any
valuable article will do in the absence of these.
 Panghimuyat- certain amount of the money given to
the bride to be’s parents as a payment for the mothers
effort s in rearing the girl to the womanhood.
 Bigay-suso- bribe given to the wet-nurse who fed the
bride during her infancy with milk from her own
breasts.
 Himaraw- sum of money to be given to the parents as
a reimbursement for the amount spent in feeding the
girl during her infancy.
 Sambon- a dowry given to the girls relatives.
Five kinds of dowry

6. The moment the man and the woman
consummated a deal to be sweet hearts till they
decide to tie the knot in marriage, it is understood
that there is always a conception of love.
Erich Fromm – “TO LOVE SOMEBODY IS NOT
JUST A STRONG FEELING-it is a decision, it
is a judgment, it is a promise. If it were only a
feeling, there would be no basis for compromise to
love each other forever. A feeling may come and it
may go.

7. Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection
for another person
Love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or
deep affection as for parent , child or friend
Love is knowing about someone and still wanting
to be with him or her more than any other person….
Love is the benevolent affection of GOD for His
creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to
GOD

8. INTIMACY
LOVE
COMMITMENTPASSION

9. Intimacy Passion Commitment
1. Desiring to promote the welfare of
the loved ones
2. Experiencing the happiness with
the loved ones
3. Holding the loved one with high
regard
4. Being able to count with the loved
one in times of need
5. Having mutual understanding with
the love one.
6. Sharing one’s self and ones
possessions with the loved one
7. Receiving emotional support from
the loved one
8. Giving emotional support to the
loved one
9. Communicating intimately with the
loved one.
10. Valuing the loved one
Includes the expression of
ones need and desire,
sexual fulfillment, self
esteem, belonging,
dominance or submission
Includes the two
phases :short term
decision- to love the other
person
Long term- commitment to
maintain that love

10. 1.Non-love- absence of all 3 components
2. Liking- intimacy without passion or
commitment
3.Infatuation- passion without intimacy or
commitment
4. Romantic love- intimacy and passion
without commitment

11. 5. Companionate love- commitment and
intimacy without passion
6. Fatuous love- passion and commitment
without intimacy
7. Empty love-commitment without passion
and intimacy
8. Consummate love- combination of
intimacy, passion and commitment

12. 1. Ludus- the ludic lover views love as a game
as play, as fun and refuses to become dependent on
one person and does not encourage another’s
intimacy.
Two Essential skill of the ludic lover are to juggle
several people at the same time and to manage each
other relationship so that no one is seen too often

13. 2. Pragma – this is the love of the pragmatic who is logical
and natural. The pragma lover asses his or her partner on
the basis of assets and liabilities. Economic security maybe
regarded as very important. The pragma lover does not
seek interracial, long distance, or age discrepant partner
because logic argues againts doing so
3. Eros- opposite of pragma, the erotic lover is consumed by
passion and one’s love involvement. Example is the titanic
love of Rose and Jack was the eros style. Also it was the
most common love style among college students.

14. 4.Mania- The person with manic love feels intense
emotional and sexual passion but is out of control. The
person is possessive and must have the beloved.
Persons who are extremely
jealous and controlling type reflect manic lover.
Example . Prosecutor in the O.J. SIMPSON trial
implied that Simpson’s love for Nicole Brown was
the manic variety.

15. 5. Storge- storge love is calm, soothing, non sexual
love devoid of intense passion. Respect, friendship,
commitment, and familiarity are characteristics that
help to define the relationship. The partner cares
deeply about each other but not in a romantic or
lustful sense. Their love is also more likely to endure
than fleeting romance.
6. Agape love- agape love is selfless and giving,
expecting nothing in return. The nurturing caring
partners are concerned only about the welfare and
growth of each other. The love of parents have for
their children is often described as agapeic love