People with Narcissistic Personality Disorders have an inflated sense of their own importance, a strong sense of entitlement, a deep need for admiration, yet a lack of empathy for others. They use verbal abuse for power and control. Verbal Abuse is often dismissed as insignificant when compared to physical abuse. BUT, the long-term effect of verbal abuse is that you can lose your sense of 'self'. You no longer know who you are. It feels like you've lost your soul.

1. VERBAL ABUSE
AND
THE NARCISSIST
Communication Tactics
Designed to Make You Crazy!!!
Compiled by Jeni Mawter
www.jenimawter.com

2. The Extreme Narcissist
People with Narcissistic Personality
Disorders have an inflated sense of
their own importance, a strong
sense of entitlement, a deep need
for admiration, yet a lack of
empathy for others.
They use verbal abuse for
power and control.

3. What is Verbal Abuse?
Verbal abuse occurs
when someone uses
language, either spoken
or written, to cause
harm to an individual.

4. http://littlekidsgrow.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/WORDS-Hurt-rant.jpg

5. Verbal Abuse Definition
by Dr Marie Hartwell-Walker
Verbal abuse takes many forms: from
loud rants to quiet comments; from
obvious put-downs to not-so-obvious
remarks that undermine the partner.
What all the methods have in common
is the need to control, to be superior, to
avoid taking personal responsibility,
and to mask or deny failures.
http://psychcentral.com/lib/signs-you-are-verbally-abused-part-i/00015267

6. Verbal Abuse has long-term effects
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8. Verbal Abusers Target their Victim
http://www.hoagames.com/thumbs/creative-kill-chamber-
2.jpg
http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/pointing-300x294.jpg

9. “How do I
verbally abuse
you?”
Let me count the ways …

10. Shut Down
http://drjeffreyrubin.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/blog2realpicture-e1331230255475.jpg?w=339&h=246&h=246

11. Talk down or Patronize
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12. Put Downs
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13. Wear down by going on and on …
http://operationmeditation.com/discover/
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14. Pretend not to hear
http://i.ytimg.com/vi/d09nf3LPM6U/hqdefault.jpg

15. Pretend to Not Understand
http://followpics.me/truthfully-im-not-listening-just-uh-huh-ing-and-uh-huh-ing-until-u-get-the-point-that-im-not-listening-and-
you-are-completely-and-totally-wasting-my-time-i-got-shit-to-do-today/

16. Name-
Calling
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17. Labels
• Neurotic
• Hysterical
• Highly strung
• Dysfunctional
• Hypersensitive
• Hypochondriac
• Crazy
• Psycho
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18. Keep changing the topic
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19. Gaslighting
http://media-cache-ec0.
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21. Projection
http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/originals/af/68/37/af68379dac15367810059a3da5880c7f.jpg

22. Accusing
http://harvestofpearls.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/pointing-fingers-copy.jpg

23. Constant Blaming
http://perseka.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/Blame-copyright-Perseka-2010.jpg

24. Blocking
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25. Not Paying Attention
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26. Irrational Thinking
http://www.lolriot.com/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense-011/

27. Constant Criticizing
http://fortunedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/130221101054-bossy-boss-614xa1.jpg?w=614

28. Exaggerating
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/7/77/Everyone-else.
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29. Twisting what I say …
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iZFv4rMmtsE/TVVRhu0A1pI/AAAAAAAAAqQ/SeM-8Z4Q8FM/s1600/Illogical%2BTshirt.jpg

30. Unjust Criticism
http://fc07.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2011/147/9/8/unjust_criticism_by_deltik-d3hdn9c.png

31. Abuse
Disguised
as a Joke
http://www.dailybleh.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/joking.jpg

32. Denial
http://www.quickmeme.com/img/5c/5c29fe97571fb65de96d61b6f5c7df162476f4f1ee5b2c8b43e08268238d61f8.jpg

33. Silent Treatment
http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/c7/b0/b5/c7b0b5eee8a9bf4bf4deff150685a6e4.jpg

34. Non-existence
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35. Disinterest
http://www.fugly.com/media/IMAGES/Random/cat-boring-face.jpg

36. The ‘non’ answer
‘Who?’
‘I’m talking to you.
‘Hi, how are you?’
‘You.’
‘What are you doing?’
http://www.twitsnaps.com/share/photo/56555_GroupIcon.j
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37. Unavailability
http://yourdailycap.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/NOT_NOW_BECOMES_NEVER_620.jpg

38. Excuses
http://images-cdn.9gag.com/photo/16656_700b.jpg

39. Slander
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h503/narcissistic%2Bmothers%2Bsmear%2Bcampaign%2Bgossip%2Bslander%2Blies%2Bvideo%2Bby%2Bgail%2Bm
eyers.jpg

40. Pathological Lying
http://wellingtonretreat.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/iStock_000018263526XSmall-300x199.jpg

41. Lies of Omission
http://img.sparknotes.com/content/sparklife/sparktalk/auntielieofomission_Large.jpg

42. Withhold – expressions of …
• Love
• Admiration
• Gratitude
• Forgiveness
• Empathy
• Endearment
• Respect
• Validation
http://dianekress.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/withhold-information.
jpg?w=640

43. Angry Outbursts / Rage
http://th04.deviantart.net/fs71/PRE/f/2011/126/e/3/
e3564981bfc3352d1dc928fdc3e07b27-d3fr192.jpg

44. Provocation
https://i.imgflip.com/857lq.jpg

45. Continual humiliation,
criticism and negative
comments eventually play
with your head.

46. Long-term Verbal Abuse can
break people emotionally and
mentally, make them unsure of
themselves, unable to recognize
their true value and unable to
trust anyone or anything.

47. You feel like
you’re going
crazy!!!
http://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1372832146_straight_jacket.jpg

48. You lose your sense of ‘Self’
Sticks and stones can
break my bones and
verbal abuse can
steal my soul

49. http://www.paulmcmillan.com/Resources/216_Empty_Chair_2wn.jpg

50. About Jeni Mawter
Jeni Mawter is an
Australian writer who first
encountered Narcissistic
Personality Disorder
whilst researching for her
young adult multi-text
novel, Kiss Kill.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PIAD
CNYKiss+Kill www.jenimawter.com

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