Victims of prolonged Narcissistic Abuse from someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) find it extremely difficult to move on with their lives. This powerpoint explores several reasons for this (childhood wounds, sensitive personality, chemical addiction, ideologies) and offers suggestions to help a victim accept and move on from their abusive relationship(s).

1. Moving on
from
Narcissistic Abuse
Due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
By Jeni Mawter

2. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=186004684914075&set=a.119863101528234.19520.119720174875860&type=3&theater

3. http://southpawbeagle.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/pills-darling.gif?w=500

4. Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide
Your Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37
“If you are a giving,
supportive person
who avoids center
stage and thrives on
taking care of others
you are at risk for
Narcissistic Love”
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5. Whether you were born into a NPD family
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6. Chose a relationship with an NPD person
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7. Or met your NPD in some other place
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8. You have experienced
Narcissistic Abuse
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9. In the beginning you don‟t recognize it as
Narcissistic Abuse
You just know „something is wrong‟
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10. It takes a long time to see the „cycle‟ or
repeated „patterns‟ of abuse
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11. So the abuse goes on and on
http://www.caring.com/blogs/caring-currents/prolonged-grief

12. You wonder if you‟re going crazy ?
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13. You lose your sense of self
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14. You lose your trust in others
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15. You lose your trust in your own
judgements and perceptions
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16. You no longer believe your past
It is built on lies and deceit
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17. People you considered
important, no longer count
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18. You lose your dreams
for your future
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19. You lose your
belief in
human decency
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20. You must acknowledge
and grieve these losses
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21. You may have signs of
Complex Post Traumatic Stress
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22. You are often exhausted
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23. Remember “Knowledge is Power”
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24. With power you can change
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25. Change
Your
Thinking
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26. Stop trying to change the NPD
into something they‟re not
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27. Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship
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28. You can‟t cure a NPD with love or attention
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29. Stop feeling sorry for the NPD
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30. Are you a Highly Sensitive Person?
Then you‟re a likely source for Narcissistic Supply
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31. Are you a Codependent?
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32. Are you hoping for „Happily Ever After‟ ?
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33. Still believe in super heroes?
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34. And that the good guy always wins?
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35. Think again …
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36. www.roadkilltshirts.com

37. Take back your control
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38. Change your mindset
http://www.anonymousartofrevolution.com/2013/06/if-you-dont-control-your-mind-someone.html

39. Realize you fell for an illusion
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40. Grieve the relationship you never had
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41. Why did you fall for an NPD?
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42. The NPD identified your inner wounds
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43. The NPD told your wounded inner child
exactly what it wanted to hear
and you felt great
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44. Feeling
„Great‟
becomes
your
Chemical
Addiction
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45. www.teens.drugabuse.gov
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46. To move on from Narcissistic Abuse
You must work on your
wounds and chemical addiction
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47. Why were you drawn to the
NPD‟s charisma ?
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48. Beware “The Halo Effect”
It clouds our judgement
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49. NPDs are „A soul with no footprints‟
Caution: Quote by Invicta Ma, 28 Jan 2009
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50. No empathy, sympathy, remorse.
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51. You are a soul with your own
thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit, future, dreams
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52. The NPD must feed off your soul
You are the strawberry
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53. You ask „Should I let them go?‟
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54. Let them go

55. Letting go means gaining control
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56. Why give the abuser control of
your power, your energy, your life?
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57. Change your expectations
Do not expect:
… an NPD to make sense
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Do not expect:
… validation from an NPD
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you.html

58. Change your expectations
Do not expect:
… an NPD to take the blame
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Do not expect:
… an NPD to compromise
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59. Change your expectations
Do not expect:
… an NPD to be responsible
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Do not expect:
… an NPD to apologize
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60. Set boundaries
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61. Limit contact, set clear boundaries
or use a mediator
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62. Apply the „No Contact‟ rule
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63. No Contact means …
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No emails
No phones
No letters
No instant messaging
No communication via a 3rd party

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66. The NPD keeps coming back because of an
insatiable need for Narcissistic Supply
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67. An NPD person won‟t let you go
no matter how hard you fight
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68. Stop the Cycle of Abuse
Stop being the source of Narc Supply
Attention
Adulation
Compliments
Admiration
Subservience
Showing fear
Liking them
Being manipulated
Being deceived
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69. Reclaim your Inner peace …
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70. … or suffer the consequences
Is this what you truly want?
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71. The NPD abuser always returns
It is part of the „cycle‟and need for Supply
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72. Ignore NPD tools of manipulation
Guilt
Fear
Pity
Threats
Violence
Blackmail
Financial abuse
Character Assassination
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73. Build and educate your
support network
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74. Arm and educate yourself/others
about High Conflict Divorce
Protect
your
Assets
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75. Stop blaming yourself
The Narcissistic Abuse has happened!
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76. Prepare for a Marathon Effort
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77. http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/55

78. Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic-
personality-disorder-compiled-by-jeni-mawter
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim-
syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter