2. RESILIENCE IN THE JOB SEARCH
“Obstacles don’t have to stop you.
If you run into a wall, don’t turn
around and give up. Figure out how
to climb it, go through it, or work
around it.”
Michael Jordan
3. LIFE IS 10% WHAT HAPPENS
TO YOU AND 90% HOW YOU
DEAL WITH IT
RESILIENCE IS A PROCESS
4. RESILIENCE QUIZ
Rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 5
In a crisis or chaotic situation, I calm myself
and focus on taking useful actions.
I'm usually optimistic. I see difficulties as
temporary and expect to overcome them.
I can tolerate high levels of ambiguity and
uncertainty about situations.
I adapt quickly to new developments. I'm good
at bouncing back from difficulties.
I'm playful. I find the humor in rough
situations, and can laugh at myself.
5. RESILIENCE QUIZ
• I'm able to recover emotionally from losses
and setbacks. I have friends I can talk with. I
can express my feelings to others and ask for
help. Feelings of anger, loss and
discouragement don't last long.
• I feel self-confident, appreciate myself and
have a healthy concept of who I am.
• I'm curious. I ask questions. I want to know
how things work. I like to try new ways of
doing things.
• I learn valuable lessons from my experiences
and from the experiences of others.
6. RESILIENCE QUIZ
• I'm good at solving problems. I can use
analytical logic, be creative, or use practical
common sense.
• I'm good at making things work well. I'm often
asked to lead groups and projects.
• I'm very flexible. I feel comfortable with my
paradoxical complexity. I'm optimistic and
pessimistic, trusting and cautious, unselfish
and selfish, and so forth.
• I'm always myself, but I've noticed that I'm
different in different situations.
7. RESILIENCE QUIZ
• I prefer to work without a written job
description. I'm more effective when I'm free
to do what I think is best in each situation.
• I "read" people well and trust my intuition.
• I'm a good listener. I have good empathy
skills.
• I'm non-judgmental about others and adapt to
people's different personality styles.
• I'm very durable. I hold up well during tough
times. I have an independent spirit underneath
my cooperative way of working with others.
8. RESILIENCE QUIZ
• I've been made stronger and better by difficult
experiences.
• I've converted misfortune into good luck and
found benefits in bad experiences.
Scoring:
80 or higher very resilient!
65-80 better than most
50-65 slow, but adequate
40-50 you're struggling
40 or under seek help!
9. WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
• The process of successfully adapting to
difficult or challenging life experiences.
• The ability to grow and thrive in the face of
challenges and bounce back from
adversity.
• Having tenacity to thrive through personal
and professional stages of your life.
• Adapting to life’s misfortunes and
setbacks.
• Take a lickin’, and keep on tickin’.
10. WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
• Your ability to adapt psychologically,
emotionally and physically to a situation
“reasonably well” and without lasting
detriment to yourself, or your relationships
with family and friends.
12. THE LANGUAGE OF RESILIENCE
• COMMITMENT • FOCUS
• CHALLENGE • FORGETTING
• CONTROL • FORWARD
13. Strong relationships, an ability to
receive help and social support, a
belief in your own competence and
strong self-esteem, lie at the heart of
resilience. What happens in your past
comes alive in you during a disaster
and you draw on that.
14. RESILIENCE CAN BE LEARNED
It is possible that people who
are not resilient can learn to
take charge of their thinking
and emotions in order to
become resilient.
15. LIFE
By Regina Brett
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. Don’t’ take yourself so seriously. No on
else does.
3. Make peace with your past so it won’t
screw up the present.
4. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
5. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the
most of it now.
16. 6. When it comes to going after
what you love in life, don’t take
no for an answer.
7. No one is in charge of your
happiness except you.
8. However good or bad a situation
is, it will change.
9. Always choose life.
10. Forgive everyone everything.
11. If we all threw our problems in a
pile and saw everyone else’s,
we’d grab ours back.
17. BECOME A REALISTIC OPTIMIST!
• Most people are conditioned to see the
negatives and dig for deficits. This limits
personal potential, education, health,
happiness, relationships and successful
outcomes personally and professionally.
• Resilience and realistic optimism seeks to
change that perspective.
18. FIVE LEVELS OF RESILIENCE
1. Maintaining Your Emotional Stability,
Health, and Well-Being
• People who become emotionally upset
about difficulties, blame others for their
feelings, and dwell on their unhappy
feelings are the least resilient and have
more illnesses.
• It is essential to sustain your health and
your energy.
19. FIVE LEVELS OF RESILIENCE
2. Focus Outward: Good Problem Solving
Skills
• Determination, tolerance and patience
provide opportunities for resolving
problems.
The second level focuses outward on the
challenges that must be handled; it is
based on research findings that problem-
focused coping leads to resilience better
than emotion-focused coping.
20. FIVE LEVELS OF RESILIENCE
3. Focus Inward: Strong Inner “Selfs”
• Self-motivated, self-managed, self-
knowledge, self-created, self-observation
• Develop the ability to rise above
challenges, and to see ways through
them.
The third level focuses inward on the
roots of resilience-strong self-esteem,
self-confidence, and a positive self-
concept.
21. FIVE LEVELS OF RESILIENCE
4. Well-Developed Resilience Skills
• These are skills needed to lead, adapt,
innovate, and facilitate while facing
constant change.
• An “artist of change” sees how to benefit
from changes affecting their life.
The fourth level covers the attributes and
skills found in highly resilient people.
22. FIVE LEVELS OF RESILIENCE
5. The Talent for Serendipity
• Being able to identify an opportunity,
grab it, and make it your own.
The fifth level describes what is possible
at the highest level of resilience. It is the
talent for serendipity-the ability to
convert misfortune into good fortune.
23. WHEN FACED WITH ADVERSITY
Remember that:
• Life isn’t fair, and that can be a good thing
for you. Resilience comes from feeling
personally responsible for finding a way to
overcome the adversity.
• Your mind and habits will create either
barriers or bridges to a better future.
• Nothing in life is permanent. When you are
highly resilient you accept and appreciate
that constant change is how life is.
24. WHEN FACED WITH ADVERSITY
• The struggle to bounce back and recover
from setbacks can lead to developing
strengths and abilities that you didn’t
know were possible.
• Resilience can’t be taught, but it can be
learned. It comes from working to develop
your unique combination of inborn
abilities.
25. HOW TO BECOME RESILIENT
Learn to be resilient by looking at
adversity, dealing with it, and ever
growing from it by staying involved,
not giving up, remaining calm, and
making a plan.
26. HOW TO BECOME RESILIENT
Stay Connected
Remain Optimistic
Be Spiritual
Be Playful
Give Back
Pick You Battles
Stay Healthy
Actively Seek Solutions
Find the Silver Lining
27. ENJOY “BEHAVIORAL MEDICINES”
• MINDFULNESS is being more aware in the
present moment of all that is here, and of
the constantly changing nature of what is
here.
• Call mindfulness as careful, open-hearted,
choiceless, present moment awareness.
• In other words…STOP AND SMELL THE
ROSES…literally!
• Get outside every day. Miracles are
everywhere.
28. ENJOY “BEHAVIORAL MEDICINES”
• WABI-SABI represents an approach to life
and art that is in harmony with nature, one
that values the handmade and rustic, and
recognizes the impermanence of life. It
encourages us to be respectful of age,
both in things and in ourselves, and it
counsels us to be content with what we
have rather than always striving for more.
• Get rid of anything that isn’t useful,
beautiful or joyful.
29. THE EMOTIONAL SIDE
OF JOB LOSS
• My termination was so painful and
emotional.
• I am embarrassed at losing my job.
• People will think losing my job was my
fault.
• Why was I let go and someone who didn’t
hit a lick managed to dodge the bullet?
• How could they treat me like this after all
these years?
30. I HAVE LOST MORE THAN
JUST MY JOB
• My sense of well being is totally disrupted.
• I feel “out of sync.”
• I have lost my daily routine.
• My self worth is gone.
• I was forced to give up an important part of
the life I have known and valued for many
years.
• Relationships at work were important to
me. What do I substitute for them?
• Roles, relationships, routines, and
assumptions in my home life are changed.
• I feel rejected.
31. I HAVE LOST MORE THAN
JUST MY JOB
• I have lost control.
• There is a feeling of helplessness.
• I am scared.
• My confidence is shattered.
• I question my competence.
• At times I feel defeated.
• The pride I had in my work
accomplishments is completely gone.
• I don’t know who to turn to.
• No one understands what I am going
through.
32. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
1. Write about how you feel. This is
especially important if the termination
was emotional.
• Include all the things you would like to
have said to your previous bosses but
didn’t.
• Continue expressing your feelings over
and over until you feel emptied.
• Due this once a day for a week, and
anytime you have a flashback.
33. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
2. Resilience starts with adapting quickly to
the new reality.
• Get your mind and emotions out of the
past.
• Think of reasons why it is good that this
happened.
• What unexpected opportunity has losing
your job opened up for you?
34. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
3. Form a small support group.
• Spend the first meeting grieving about
what all of you have lost. Get mad!
• Talk about the way you were terminated,
what you miss most, not miss, your
accomplishments, etc.
• Help each other discover job
opportunities.
WE HAVE MORE COURAGE FOR EACH
OTHER THAN WE HAVE FOR
OURSELVES
35. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
4. Rebuild your self-esteem
• Make a list of everything you like and
appreciate about yourself.
• Ask recent co-workers, managers or
fellow volunteers for letters of
appreciation about how much they
enjoyed working with you.
• These endorsements will help remind
you of all that you contributed and your
self-worth.
36. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
5. Write a detailed description of what you
do well and practice talking about your
reliable strengths. It is okay to brag.
• What assignments or projects are you
proud about?
• What are your strengths and skills?
• Describe your people skills.
37. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
6. Discover something of value in your job
loss experience.
• Get over the victim/blaming reaction.
• Why was it good that this happened?
• What have you learned from this
experience?
• How has it made you a stronger, better
person?
• Find the gift in your job loss.
38. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
7. Make finding a job your job.
• Get out and talk with people and network.
• Be persistent.
• Focus on the employer’s needs, more
than your own.
• Don’t become preoccupied with past job
rejections.
• Stay balanced, expect to be hired while
being emotionally prepared to be turned
down.
39. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
8. Be open to unexpected opportunities.
• Keep your eyes and ears open to see and
hear opportunity knocking on your door.
• Opportunity happens when we least
expect it…be ready for it.
• If it feels right, don’t hesitate or second
guess the opportunity given you.
• What calls to you?
40. MOURN YOUR LOSS AND MOVE ON!
9. Take creative action. Use your
imagination.
• Use tools that will set you apart from the
rest of the job seekers.
• Pay attention to your recent employer’s
new situation. Could you be hired back
as a consultant on a special project?
ALWAYS TRY TO LOOK FURTHER THAN
YOU CAN SEE
41. LIFE’S DEFINITION
Resilience is…
the inherent and nurtured capacity of
individuals to deal with life’s stresses in
ways that enable them to lead healthy and
fulfilled lives.
42. When hit by a major life disruption, you
will never be the same again. You will
emerge either stronger or weaker, either
better or bitter. You have the ability to
determine which way it will be for you.
43. THREE THINGS IN LIFE
Three things in life, once gone, never return
Time
Words
Opportunity
Three things in life that can destroy you
Anger
Pride
Unforgiveness
44. THREE THINGS IN LIFE
Three things in life that are most valuable
Love
Family & Friends
Kindness
Three things in life that are never certain
Fortune
Success
Dreams
45. THREE THINGS IN LIFE
Three things in life that can make a person
Commitment
Sincerity
Hard work
Three things in life to never lose
Hope
Peace
Honesty
46. THREE THINGS IN LIFE
Three things in life you can never get back
A spent arrow
The spoken word
A lost opportunity
47. SOURCES
• OrganisationHealth Psychologists -
www.orghealth.co.uk
• The Resiliency Center, Dr. Albert Siebert -
www.resiliencycenter.com
• Medical News Today –
www.medicalnewstoday.com
• AARP Magazine, November-December
2009, Beth Howard
• The Artistry of Change –
http://worldcreativity.pbworks.com
48. SOURCES
• Overwhelmed-Coping with Life’s Ups and
Downs, Nancy K. Schlossberg (2nd edition)
• Carla Rieger – Trainer and Coach -
www.carlarieger.com
• Newsweek Magazine – What It Takes To
Survive – www.newsweek.com
• Entrepreneur.com
• United States Army –www.defensetalk.com
49. SOURCES
UC San Diego Health System,
health.ucsd.edu/specialties/psych/mindfulness
Are you resilient? By Rachele Kanigel
Wikipedia.org/wiki/Wabi-sabi
