This document discusses the topic of bitterness and forgiveness. It begins by summarizing Ephesians 4:25-32, which lists commands such as speaking truthfully, not letting anger lead to sin, avoiding theft and unwholesome talk. It then discusses characteristics of bitter people and five ways people become bitter. The document stresses that when sinned against, the only choices are bitterness or forgiveness. It provides six commands for bitter believers, such as watching gossip and emotions. It describes the cycle of bitterness and how to dig up the root through forgiveness. Finally, it outlines what forgiveness is and is not. The overarching message is that believers must forgive others as God in Christ forgave them.
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3. EPHESIANS 4:25-32
25 Therefore each of you must put off
falsehood and speak truthfully to your
neighbor, for we are all members of one
body. 26 âIn your anger do not sinâ: Do not
let the sun go down while you are still
angry, 27 and do not give the devil a
foothold.
4. EPHESIANS 4:25-32
28 Anyone who has been stealing must
steal no longer, but must work, doing
something useful with their own hands,
that they may have something to share
with those in need.
5. EPHESIANS 4:25-32
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come
out of your mouths, but only what is
helpful for building others up according to
their needs, that it may benefit those who
listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit
of God, with whom you were sealed for
the day of redemption.
6. EPHESIANS 4:25-32
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and
anger, brawling and slander, along with
every form of malice. 32 Be kind and
compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ God forgave
you.
12. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:5
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-
seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps
no record of wrongs.
13. (3) Bitter people are
triggered less by the
offense and more by
their love for the
offender.
14. (4) Bitter people are
prone to be self-
righteous since they
are the perceived
victim.
15. If I sin against you, am I prone to feel
guilty or bitter? Guilty. If I perceive that
youâve sinned against me, and I
choose not to forgive you, am I prone
to feel guilty or bitter? Bitter.
16. Bitterness is, by definition, the
possession of the one who is
perceived to have been wronged.
This contributes to their sense of self-
righteousness and judgmentalism.
27. When we are sinned against, we have
two choices: bitterness or forgiveness.
Thereâs no third option. When you are
sinned against, itâs bitterness or
forgiveness.
28. Who is it that you are bitter against, or
potentially bitter against, or will be bitter
against?
Who has sinned against you?
Whose face comes into your mindâs eye?
Whose name comes into your mind?
29. Who has betrayed you?
Who has abandoned you?
Who has harmed you?
Who has disappointed you?
Who has hurt you?
Who do you blame for your bitterness?
30. What tends to happen is, when we
have been sinned againstâwe have
been victimizedâwe tend to justify
our bitterness.
31. But, no one can make you bitter.
Theyâre responsible for their sin, but
youâre responsible for your
bitterness.
32. âFor a cup brimful
of sweet water
cannot even spill
one drop of bitter
water, however
suddenly jolted.â
- Amy Carmichael
33. If thereâs bitterness in you, theyâre going to
expose it. Theyâre not causing it; theyâre
exposing it. If thereâs sweet water in your
soul, and someone sins against you,
theyâre exposing, not changing, what is
in your soul.
35. EPHESIANS 4:25-29
25 Therefore each of you must put off
falsehood and speak truthfully to your
neighbor, for we are all members of one
body. 26 âIn your anger do not sinâ: Do not
let the sun go down while you are still
angry, 27 and do not give the devil a
foothold.
36. EPHESIANS 4:25-29
28 Anyone who has been stealing must
steal no longer, but must work, doing
something useful with their own hands,
that they may have something to share
with those in need.
37. EPHESIANS 4:25-29
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come
out of your mouths, but only what is
helpful for building others up according to
their needs, that it may benefit those who
listen.
39. Gossip is when we talk about people;
we donât talk with them. Thatâs gossip.
The Bible has nothing good to say about
gossip, and just because youâre hurting
doesnât mean thereâs an exception clause.
41. Godâs people are to bring water to the
fire, not wood. Gossip is just dry kindling.
42. Sometimes this means you literally need to
sit down with them face to face. Matthew 18
says if thereâs a personal offense between the
two of you, you start face to face. And if that
doesnât produce any result, then you bring along
two or three other godly people to help mediate
and observe the process.
44. EXODUS 34:6
6 And He passed in front of Moses,
proclaiming, âThe Lord, the Lord, the
compassionate and gracious God, slow
to anger, abounding in love and
faithfulness,
46. In saying, âDo not let the sun go down on
your anger,â what itâs saying is, âDonât let
things extend or delay.â
47. It doesnât mean you canât go for a walk and say,
âLook, Iâm really frustrated. I need to pray. Let me
journal, think my thoughts through, get my head on
straight. Let me cool down. Let me go read my
Bible. Iâll be ready in an hour or two. Let me just get
ready to talk to you so I donât bring a lot of wood to
this fire.â
49. Satan loves it when a Christian shoots
a Christian, saves them the bullet, and it
also publicly damages the reputation of
Jesus. Itâs all spiritual war.
51. What do you do with your hands when youâre bitter?
Do you punch something? Do you shove someone?
Do you grab someone? Do you throw something?
Do you slam a door? Do you jump in a car? Do you
slam it into gear and speed away? What do you do
with your hands?
53. Bitter people tend to rewrite, revise
history. Watch your mouth. Tell the truth
about them and you. You do not have a
right to respond to sin with sin. The Bible
says, âDo not respond to evil with evil.â
61. First thing, you need a spark, and then a little
flame. OK, now we have the beginnings of a
potential fire. Thereâs an opportunity here.
Thatâs what wrath is. Bitterness is like the
spark. Wrath is the first flame. Now, through
gossip, youâre literally breathing on it.
62. Bitter people donât intend to burn down
everything in their path. But the two options
are bitterness or forgiveness, wood on the
fire, or water on the fire. And sometimes,
hurt people like to hurt people. Some fires
move slow. Some fires move fast.
64. EPHESIANS 4:29-32
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come
out of your mouths, but only what is
helpful for building others up according to
their needs, that it may benefit those who
listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit
of God, with whom you were sealed for
the day of redemption.
65. EPHESIANS 4:29-32
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and
anger, brawling and slander, along with
every form of malice. 32 Be kind and
compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ God forgave
you.
66. It takes a miracle for a bitter victim to forgive,
and the name of the miracle is the Holy
Spirit. He is the one who will allow you,
empower you, enable you to forgive. And if
you resist or quench Himâwe grieve the
Holy Spirit.
67. Sin is not just breaking Godâs laws. Itâs
breaking Godâs heart, because God is not
just a law. Heâs a Person. Are you grieving the
Holy Spirit? Is there sadness? Is there grief,
because of you, in Him?
70. SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS IS
(1) Forgiveness is canceling a debt owed to
you.
(2) Forgiveness is removing the control that
the offender has over you.
(3) Forgiveness is giving a gift to yourself
and to your offender.
71. SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS IS
(4) Forgiveness is forsaking revenge.
(5) Forgiveness is leaving ultimate justice in
Godâs hands.
(6) Forgiveness is an ongoing process.
(7) Forgiveness is wanting good for your
offender. .
72. ROMANS 12:19
19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends,
but leave room for Godâs wrath, for it is
written: âIt is Mine to avenge; I will repay,â
says the Lord.
74. SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS
IS NOT
(1) Forgiveness is not denying that sin
occurred or diminishing its evil.
(2) Forgiveness is not enabling sin.
(3) Forgiveness is not necessarily a
response to an apology.
(4) Forgiveness is not forgetting.
75. SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS
IS NOT
(5) Forgiveness is not covering up crimes
committed against us.
(6) Forgiveness is not trust.
(7) Forgiveness is not reconciliation.