Extreme Collaboration: Getting Stuff Done with People You Don't Trust, Respect, or Like
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Imagine you need to get a project done with someone that you do not trust, respect, or like. In this talk, I break down how you can work with almost anyone.
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Extreme Collaboration: Getting Stuff Done with People You Don't Trust, Respect, or Like
- 1. EXTREME COLLABORATION: Getting Stuff Done with People You Don’t Trust, Respect, or Like By Brian Sullivan
- 2. A TEAM WITHOUT TRUST IS A GROUP OF INDIVIDUALS.
- 3. Ralphie from Hell Years ago, I worked with a leader who looked like Ralphie from a Christmas Story. I had a terrible experience because: • No Trust. Ralphie was undermining me during the workshop and beyond. • No Respect. Ralphie was insecure, so he insulted other people to feel better. It is hard to work with people that you don’t like, trust, or respect. But, it can be done. Peter Billingsley, actor
- 7. RESPECT IS MORE CRUCIAL THAN LOVE.
- 8. HIGH RESPECT LOW RESPECT HIGH TRUST LOW TRUST People we like, admire, and follow. People we like but wouldn’t ask to help. People we can barely tolerate but we have to. People we tolerate because they are good at what they do. NATURAL PARTNERSHIP
- 10. HIGH RESPECT LOW RESPECT HIGH TRUST LOW TRUST People we like, admire, and follow. People we like but wouldn’t ask to help. People we can barely tolerate but we have to. People we tolerate because they are good at what they do. CAREFUL COORDINATION
- 12. HIGH RESPECT LOW RESPECT HIGH TRUST LOW TRUST People we like, admire, and follow. People we like but wouldn’t ask to help. People we can barely tolerate but we have to. People we tolerate because they are good at what they do. CAUTIOUS COOPERATION
- 14. HIGH RESPECT LOW RESPECT HIGH TRUST LOW TRUST People we like, admire, and follow. People we like but wouldn’t ask to help. People we can barely tolerate but we have to. People we tolerate because they are good at what they do. EXTREME COLLABORATION
- 16. WAYS TO DEAL WITH EXTREME COLLABORATION (admire and inspire others)
- 17. Ways to Gain Respect • Avoid Gossip Altogether • Decide on a Positive Outcome • Manage Your Emotions • Invoke Empathy, Not Sympathy • Remain Open-Minded • Establish Boundaries
- 18. APPROACH CONFLICT AS A COLLABORATOR (not an adversary)
- 19. Ways to Gain Trust • Imagine the Risk Together • Not Afraid of Conflict • Suppose Positive Intent • Practice Vulnerability Gradually • Interested in Other’s Success • Re-act with Radical Candor
- 20. REPLACE BLAME WITH CURIOSITY. (adopt a learning mindset)
- 21. The Return of Ralphie We butted heads in the workshop. We did not take it personal. Ralphie was under a large amount of pressure. • We Built Trust. Ralphie started to trust me once we had a great review by the CEO. • We Built Respect. Ralphie received a nice promotion because of the work we did. • We Built Boundaries. Ralphie has certain responsibilities and I have mine. It works. (we have a working relationship) Peter Billingsley, actor
- 22. HIGH RESPECT LOW RESPECT HIGH TRUST LOW TRUST People we like, admire, and follow. People we like but wouldn’t ask to help. People we can barely tolerate but we have to. People we tolerate because they are good at what they do. EXTREME COLLABORATION