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How to Charm a Girl Instantly:
The Science of Seductive
Charisma Explained
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The nature of charisma is fascinating. On one hand, it’s a
pretty intangible concept, yet most people “feel” it and respond
well to it. You can’t see it, but you know when someone has
it. Charisma is like a magnet that attracts attention, respect,
admiration, and authority. Individuals with charismatic traits
seem to easily influence and charm girls or other people,
regardless of how “ethical” their motives may be. It’s almost as
if excessively charismatic people have found a way to “hack”
the very fabric of social interaction in their favor.
This social “hack” allows community organizers to rouse
interest in important social issues and dictators to seize
control over a country’s infrastructure. It’s a seemingly neutral
force of nature that few are willing to effectively harness.
However, according to a University of Tennessee, Knoxville
study, .
In terms of seduction, charisma plays an important role
in attracting women. When you adopt the right mindsets
and mannerisms, you’re influence over women will be
supernatural.
Learning How to Charm a Girl has
Never Been this Easy…
If you’ve ever wondered how to charm a girl instantly,
understanding the common attributes of charismatic people is
a must. Here are a few:
1. The Ability to Lead Well.
Charismatic individuals have an unusually easy time leading
others towards a shared goal. In fact, some people end up
reluctantly being viewed as “leaders” because their charisma
is so empowering that the responsibility naturally falls in
their lap. This is because charismatics typically display traits
that are universally appealing to human beings (empathy,
confidence, vision, direction, etc..).
In regards to romance, seduction, and charm, leadership plays
an enormous role. Although society is slowly changing it’s
perception on gender roles, most women still prefer it when
men take charge and make good decisions that benefit both
parties. Women are often charmed by men who, without any
provocation, can take their hand and show them something
new and exciting.
Take note: When we say “lead,” we don’t mean “control.”
There’s a huge difference. You’re job as a man isn’t to “control”
a woman, but it is to lead her into a place of comfort,
excitement and pleasure. This means you have to take more
initiative when approaching women. A leader doesn’t sit back
and watch opportunities fly by. It also means you need to
engage in more decision-making while on dates or in bed.
Women can’t sexually submit to a man who’s constantly
looking to them for direction.
2. Mystique and Intrigue.
Intrigue and charisma are never far apart. Charismatic people
have a tendency to (consciously or not) create mystique
and intrigue around themselves. Most of the time, the
mystique that surrounds people of interest and influence is
just an illusion. This can be attributed to a lack of general
transparency and the effects it has on the interpretations of
outside observers.
Isn’t it funny that the less we are able to understand someone,
the more interesting they become? Is it because we fill the
void of knowledge and understanding with our own overactive
imagination? If so, it makes sense why women fall so easily
for the “strong but silent” types. These men offer such little
explanation of themselves that women are forced to fill in the

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blanks with fantasies and exciting scenarios (which are often
times far more epic than the reality of that person).
You can really take advantage of this illusion to charm girls.
When introducing yourself for the first time, make it a point
not to reveal too much about yourself. Keep the conversation
on her, and when she asks specific things about you, don’t be
afraid to respond with a somewhat vague answer.
Girl: “So, are you from around here?”
Guy: “I guess you could say that.. I’ve never really stayed in
one place, though.”
Girl: “Oh really? Like what kind of places?”
Guy: “Haha, too many to mention right now. What about
yourself [redirecting the focus back to her]?”
Girl: “Yeah, I was born and raised here my whole life… but I
want to know more about you!”
Guy: “Weeell, I’ll have tell you my story sometime. Actually,
what’s your number? We should go grab coffee sometime
soon.”
The example above demonstrates how you can use intrigue
to build attraction. Our “guy” could have easily explained
that his father was active in the military so his family had to
move frequently. Instead, he chose to withhold the details,
thereby creating intrigue. Our “girl” doesn’t know this, and has
probably labeled him some sort of “mysterious drifter” that
she feels compelled to “figure out.” In the meantime, however,
she’ll just have to use her imagination.
Note: This doesn’t mean you need to act like a huge, unsolvable
mystery. If you’re a naturally open and transparent individual,
you can still be yourself. Just resist the temptation to tell your
life story within the first 20 minutes of meeting a woman. Just
to play it safe, we recommend you cut the time you usually
spend explaining yourself by 50%.
3. Body Language.
Perhaps it would help to look at how some of the most popular
world leaders carry themselves around. You will realize that
their body posture, walking style and communication skills
reflect power and charisma. More than 70 percent of human
communication is expressed through subtle body language.
Therefore, to succeed in charming a potential date, you have
to open up physically and remain cool. Women are attracted
to guys who portray dominant traits through their body
language.
Like a Boss.
Some non-verbal cues you should avoid include:
•
closed and pulled-in body postures
•
holding your hands in your pockets
•
twitching hands or fingers
•
touching your face when talking
•
avoiding eye-contact or looking down while speaking
•
nervous facial gestures
•
milling too much
•
being afraid to touch a woman and many more.
Try to take note of the body language of powerful and
influential figures. Notice how they always appear relaxed yet
really engaged when speaking to people. Solid eye contact is
a must (general rule of thumb: maintain eye contact 70% of
the time). They may even touch shoulders, arms, etc… of other
people while relating to them. Women will find you irresistibly
charming once you master dominant body language.
4. Social Proof.
is a fascinating social phenomenon. It occurs when a person’s
(or group’s) perception of reality is so weak that they look
to others for cues on how to interpret a situation. Trend
setters, politicians, leaders, and influential people often take
full advantage of social proof in order to get large groups
of people to do something. Marketers often use social proof
to build credibility around a product. If you’re shopping for
a basketball but don’t have a particular brand in mind, you
are statistically be more likely to choose a brand endorsed
(and used) by Lebron James than a generic alternative. The
basketballs could be the exact same quality, but the one with
the most social proof usually wins.
In regards to charming girls, social proof can play a VERY
important role. When a woman first notices you, she might
find you cute but won’t think much of it unless she can place
you in a positive social context. In other words, her perception
of you is HIGHLY dependent on how other people respond to
you. She will likely perceive you as having high value if she sees
other people placing such value on you.
Think of social proof as the “Like” box on Facebook. You’re
more likely to pay attention to status updates that have a ton
of “likes” than statuses with just a few. You’re also more likely
to “share” and discuss status updates that have hundreds of
responses. Conversely, you’re LESS likely to share statuses in
which the originator “likes” his/her own status (hint, hint!).
Pictured: Social Proof made easy.
A woman is going to be more receptive of your approach if
she overhears other people talk about you positively or notices
women and friends responding to you favorably. All these
social factors are basically “Likes” in your favor. If you’re
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able to accumulate enough social credibility, women will start
approaching YOU first!
Could it be that social proof also tends to create intrigue? We
think so!
Related PUA Terminology:
and .
Summary.
At the end of the day, there is definitely a science behind
social interaction. Those who master it well typically know
how to charm girls the best. Keeping women spellbound while
interacting with them is less about being a smooth “player” and
more about being good with people! This is why charismatic
types have greater sexual access then the average person. They
hit that universal “sweet spot” in other human beings, and reap
the rewards for their social competence.
Are you prepared to use the force of seductive charisma in your
daily life?