Ego, stress & conflict management

2. Ego?
Self-respect
What I am and what I support and
like
An attachment to MY things, MY
emotions, MY opinions and MY
relations

3. Ego Inflation: the BIG
EGO
I get over-attached to what I like
I get over possessive about things I own
and people closely related to ME
I get attached to what I say, think and
feel

5. A few dialogues

6. The Big Ego at the
Workplace
1. “That was what I recommended in the
previous meeting. I simply hate my boss for
taking MY suggestions and showcasing these
points as his own to the seniors.”
2. “That’s MY desk. Why are you sitting here?
Did you open MY PC? Are you taking out
some information?”

7. The Big Ego in the Family
1. “Mom likes him more. He doesn’t even clean
his room. I do everything for him, still he gets
all nice gifts.”
2. “That’s not MY job. You never help ME out
with the household, why should I do your
share of work?”

8. The Big Ego with Friends
1. “Why didn’t you call ME up before Jack to
tell about the party? You always share things
with him first and I come late into the
picture.”
2. “She keeps telling that she likes that music
and yesterday she didn’t even recognize the
music track.”

9. How good is the BIG
EGO?
My head is always high
People don’t trust me and I don’t
trust people
I criticize others a lot
I fear others will criticize me
High levels of insecurity leads to high
stress levels
High stress levels lead to more
conflicts

10. Facts about Stress
Your mind won’t let you rest when you feel
insecure after sharing a secret or criticizing a
close friend
Insecurity about maintaining your reputation
makes you behave much more politely/impolitely
than you actually want to
Stress never lets you concentrate on the task at
hand and you start missing targets

11. Stress and Conflicts
Low and high levels of stress leave you tired
and irritable. You don’t feel like talking to your
team members
Conflicts arise not because of the occurrence of
mistakes but because you don’t want to rectify
other’s mistakes. After all, you are not
responsible for what others do.

12. Stress Management &
Conflict Management
Identify the BIG EGO
Keep this BIG EGO under check
Do some self-analysis
Keep track of what you think and
how you behave with others.